Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. —Galatians 1:10
The quote and Bible verse above was what I wrote in my journal six years ago. I looked back on what was going on at that time and now praise God for where He’s brought me.
I spent years in environments where whatever it takes was my motto and no was not an option. I didn’t say no, and I didn’t accept it for an answer. Workaholism and the dangers of people-pleasing is real, and I’ve watched it destroy many lives and families. It may look like success at first, but it can lead to destruction. I’ve seen so much heartbreak. Divorce. Affairs. Broken homes. Health issues. Drug addiction. Alcoholism. Death.
All for the feeling and appearance of power and success. Why have so many of us paid such a heavy price for such a temporary feeling? Why do some feel the need to “win” in front of others, when our ultimate prizes will never be found in earthly praise or possessions?
Like Paul said in Galatians 10:1, If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. Paul understood how to be a servant leader, a term that’s become more trendy in motivational talks and conferences. but it’s a form of leadership that originated from God. It’s how He’s been telling us all along to lead others in ways that glorify Him.
A truly effective leader leads in love and the desire to please God, not in an effort to please people. The moment I learned to say no was the moment I became healthier, stronger and happier. I also became more effective to the people around me. The moment I stopped trying to control everything in my own strength and power was when my life became full of more powerful moments.
If you truly want to impact the lives of others you do life with, learn how to truly love people and be who God made you to be. Let God show you how to win His way. Allow His power to be your confidence, not the approval of others!
Feel free to share how you have overcome your need to please and you can praise God for where you are, or share how we can pray for you.